The Blog
Feeling Rejected by Your Partner or Stuck in Blame?
Is there an argument you keep on having or an issue that never goes away no matter how many times you try to solve it? John Gottman’s extensive 30-year study on couples found that 69% of relationship issues are perpetual and not solvable. That’s right! Most issues between couples arise from personality differences or
Being Patient and Persistent Through Difficult Times
One of the more difficult aspects of my job as a Mental Health Clinician is watching individuals suffer and struggle through intense and somewhat chronic-feeling life situations, while desperately “treading water”, doing everything they can just to survive.
As I’ve worked with these individuals, I often find myself thinking and asking questions…
Emotion Coaching: How to raise a resilient child (and ultimately a happy child)
When parents are surveyed about what they want most for their child, the answer is usually happiness. It’s perfectly reasonable and something we can all admit we want for ourselves. But there’s one inherent problem in making this the goal for your child…...
What You Don’t Know About Narcissism Can Hurt You
By controlling another person a narcissist feels powerful and avoids facing their own deep fears of rejection, shame, or powerlessness. A hallmark feature of narcissism is their lack of empathy–not being able to see your perspective or take your needs into account. They have no problem making demands or using people because they feel entitled.
Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids, And Why It’s Better Than Hoping They’ll Be Happy
What do you want most for your kids? The answer I frequently hear is happiness. Parents want their kids to be happy. I mean what could be better than happy kids, right? It’s a great idea, with one inherent problem… happiness is a temporary state that can be elusive to maintain.
How’s Your Pain?
It is estimated that over 50 million adults in the U.S. suffer from chronic pain. That’s over 20% of the adult population and a lot of pain (1). According to the CDC, “Chronic pain, one of the most common reasons adults seek medical care, has been linked to restrictions in mobility and daily activities, dependence on opioids, anxiety, and depression, and poor perceived health or reduced quality of life”
