The Blog
What Every Couple Needs to Know
“We’re not who we used to be… we’re just two ghosts standing in place of you and me,” sings Harry Styles, describing in aching tones what it’s like to be with your lover and feel as though you don’t even know them anymore.
Change Your Thoughts and Your Thoughts Will Change You
Have you ever sent a friend a text and didn’t hear back so you wondered if you were being snubbed or ignored? That’s your brain telling you a story, trying to make sense of your situation. Your brain could have said, They care about me, so they must be busy. But brains generally assume the worst. Why? Because over time our brains evolved to keep us safe by looking for danger. The second we catch a whiff of uncertainty or something triggers a….
Stop Playing the Game of Relational Jumanji
Stop playing the game of relational Jumanji. Find more peace in your relationships with this solution! Recently I came across a book that changed the way I view relationships. It spoke of something called, The Drama Triangle. This concept was first described by...
Neurons That Fire Together Wire Together
Coined nearly 70 years ago by the Canadian neuropsychologist Donald Hebb, this clever phrase reminds us that every experience, thought, feeling, and physical sensation triggers thousands of neurons, forming a neural network. Messages traveling the same pathway in the...
Tips to Improve Communication in Relationships
One of the most common reasons for couples to seek counseling is to improve communication. What most people really mean when they say they want to improve their communication, however, is that they want to understand and feel understood. They want a deeper connection…..
5 Steps to Reconnect to our Emotions and find Common Ground
Everyone is speaking about how divisive our country is right now. But why? And how do we reverse course to find common ground? I suggest looking more closely at our own emotions and how we are behaving towards each other. You see, there is a pattern that we can zoom in on. Every day we see chaos around us. We watch it on T.V., we see it on our social media, we see just about everything in our society being politically used….
